How to Build Attraction

July 10, 2010 Comments Off

It’s one thing to approach women and engage them in playful flirting. It’s another to actually make her find you attractive and want to go further with you.

You see, you have to make sure that you’re not just a friendly clown whom she likes having around. If you’re flirty and funny, even if you initiate touch and do a lot of things right, that still doesn’t necessarily mean that she will be attracted to you. She may very well flirt back and make sure you feel welcome. After all, flattery and some entertainment is always nice.

You need to make sure that you never fall into this “clown/potential best friend” trap.

There are many ways for building attraction and I’ll be covering several techniques in future posts. However, the number one thing to do for creating attraction is to keep her guessing.

If she is every 100% sure about you, that makes you boring and bland. If you are a bit of a mystery to her, if you sometimes do something seemingly random, if you keep secrets from her (and let her know) and if you send her mixed signals, that will always make you more interesting and more attractive.

Also, never cater to all her needs and wishes. It’s okay to do her a favour from time to time, but never be her servant. In fact, it’s best to almost give her what she wants and then take it away again. Especially once you start getting more intimate, you can drive her crazy with desire by always getting a little more intimate with her, then pulling away again. You might have heard of this referred to as cat string theory and it works like magic!

So, keep in mind: Always stay slightly mysterious and always keep her guessing.